Are you serious?

After a few recent failed attempts at starting a potential relationship (could you even call it that if you're friends with the guy and just getting to know more about one another with the possibility of starting something more serious?) I decided to try my hand at this internet dating thing. I had been on a couple of sites before for non-dating purposes, if you get where I'm going with that. Anyway... so I added this "Speeddate" application on facebook, not really looking for a relationship, but more networking. All I have to say is WOW! What the heck?

So I got an email from this one guy, part filipino... cool. He just moved here from Guam. He's a bit younger, but I don't mind meeting all types of people. He seemed pretty cool until he tried to convince me that my beliefs were wrong regarding a relationship. My faith is a big part of me, and I don't see a relationship getting any further than dates here and there unless the person shares the same faith as me (That's just my own personal standard; to each his own). Ummm yeah... that was a no-go. Keeping in touch, no problem. Relationship... no.

Then along comes bachelor number two. So he doesn't share the same faith, but that's okay... I'm just here to meet new people right? He looks decent in appearance, has a master's degree, lives in the surrounding area. He wants my email address to find me on facebook. Slow down buddy, we can chat first... no need to be all up in my business ya know? So we IM back and forth... and he seems like he's in a bit of a rush. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt. So on we go chatting away. He asks if I want to go on a date. Sure. He mentions some club in DC, I tell him I don't go clubbing. He insists anyway (does he need a hearing aid? or should I say a new prescription?). Fine. I figure, it's in a public place and I'm under no obligation to stay if I don't like the guy, right?

It gets better. We were thinking a Friday evening date since Fridays are my study breaks from MCAT studying. I thought maybe I'll just hop the metro to DC after ice skating in Alexandria. But then he pops the big question: Do you want to give me a ride to DC (he sold his car so he doesn't have one at the current moment)? WHAT? Are you serious? You want to ask me out on a date and then ASK ME to pick YOU up? Ummmmm NO. First of all I'm an hour away in MD (which by the way I already mentioned to him), but then he responds, "not my fault..I thought u lived in ashburn & dat's why I hit on you." I'm finding this hilarious. Does he really pick up women that way? Too funny. This is my entertainment at this point, trying to figure out what he'll say next.

I end up telling the guy that when he gets his car back that maybe we can meet up somewhere then. He tells me he doesn't have the patience to wait that long, but I really don't see how that's my problem at all. And then he stops talking for awhile, only to come back and tell me that this distance between us is a problem. I'm confused. I don't remember ever being in relationship with him. Hmmmm... so he thinks I'm just a booty call? Oh heck no. You can take your carless behind to DC on the bus and hang out at the club by yourself. LOL.

I just have one question... ARE YOU SERIOUS?

It somehow fits together... like a puzzle...

Once again I've gotten entangled in this thing called life. I've been bombarded by a myriad of events, both pleasant and uneventful.

After the whole fiasco with the ex, I started talking to the most amazing guy. He was one of the sweetest guys I have encountered in such a long time. We hit it off pretty well and started to spend time together. We talked. Our interests were the same, we're of the same faith, and I was definitely attracted to him. Yet, life has a way of sometimes putting a strain on a good thing. Needless to say, I'm once again swimming far off coast with nobody else around.

But maybe it's a good thing. Instead of moping over the loss of a potential relationship, I've re-focused myself on my priorities (MCATs, career, health, etc) and am more aggressive/proactive in staying positive. I'm proud to say that I've been losing all the stress weight I gained over all these years of staying with my ex. I start off every day at the gym or doing some form of physical activity to get down to my goal size/weight. My diet has changed; healthy lifestyle changes have caused the way I view what is put in my body. I look better, I feel better, and I'm starting to put on my cute clothes that have been hiding in boxes. Co-workers and friends alike have seen this new fervor in me. =D

I feel a renewal of life and the potential of success soon to come. Life is good!